Thoughts on How to Grieve

Friends, Can we talk? I’ve gotten some criticism recently, that I’m grieving improperly. That I may be sharing (or exploiting) my separation & divorce to gain some social media momentum. This criticism also said that grief is a quiet journey, not to be made public. I would like to publicly respond to this, as IContinue reading “Thoughts on How to Grieve”

A blessing for when everything hurts at Christmas.

I’ve been taking lots of social media breaks for my self care lately. I think we all crave genuine connection, and sometimes social media only makes us feel isolated, especially during difficult times. This blessing has been on my heart to share for a little while. I know Christmas is hard for so many people,Continue reading “A blessing for when everything hurts at Christmas.”

Grieve Forward.

There’s no one way to grieve.  There’s no one way to walk through a separation or divorce. I’ve had to feel my way through this fog as best I can, not really knowing what I’m doing. But I’m trying to listen… listen hard. Because there are deep soul things to learn, buried in this fogContinue reading “Grieve Forward.”

Speaking in two places at once!

Thanks to pre-recording my messages, I was able to speak at two churches today! (Thanks technology!) The first was at Harcourt Memorial United Church in Guelph, Ontario, for their Affirming Sunday Service! With everything going on, it felt most appropriate to share about the challenge of balancing both grief & joy. My message is aboutContinue reading “Speaking in two places at once!”

It’s complicated.

I almost didn’t post this. But I’m 40 now, so screw it, I’m not editing myself anymore! I wrote this after a recent visit with my parents. (I hid this from them  on social media. Because I do love them and don’t want to hurt them. But being honest about hard things is important.) ThisContinue reading “It’s complicated.”

Church.

Pausing along the Maple Ridge / Pitt Meadows Dyke trails to breathe in the mountain fog. Right now, this is my church. On my bike, sweating down these trails, God and I have it out. Almost every day. This (quarantine) time feels uncertain, in more ways than one. So, I confess my scariest fears. MyContinue reading “Church.”

My story for Dark Glass Theatre’s “Trespass”

Instructions for a life: Pay attention.  Be astonished.  Tell someone.  I grew up in a large Pentecostal church, baptized days after being born. God and Jesus were always a huge part of my life. My youth was full of Christian conventions, church summer camps and Friday night youth groups. I always believed the church wasContinue reading “My story for Dark Glass Theatre’s “Trespass””

Another letter to Baby Chomiak: She will never say “I love you, Daddy”.

Hello my little one…. it’s me. [We will teach you about Adele when you grow up a bit!] I can’t even believe you are already 28 weeks along, and growing so strong inside of Mama’s belly. Wow, you are doing so great little bean! First let me thank you for a precious gift you haveContinue reading “Another letter to Baby Chomiak: She will never say “I love you, Daddy”.”

A letter to Baby Chomiak

My dear sweet little bean, You don’t know it yet, but you are so entirely loved. These past few weeks, the word miracle has taken shape inside of your Mama, and I have had the honor of having a front row seat to the unfolding of it all. Let me tell you a little bitContinue reading “A letter to Baby Chomiak”

I’m gonna be a Mom. :D

We announced our big news on the social medias today, and I did this little illustration for the occasion. Our hearts are dancing, and we breathe in these moments of joy after a long journey.  😀 😀