Grieve Forward.

There’s no one way to grieve.  There’s no one way to walk through a separation or divorce. I’ve had to feel my way through this fog as best I can, not really knowing what I’m doing. But I’m trying to listen… listen hard. Because there are deep soul things to learn, buried in this fogContinue reading “Grieve Forward.”

Marriage (reality) check-in.

Hey hi hey! Who’s marriage/relationship is really struggling right now?  In a prolonged pandemic,In the Polaroid of social media,In a perfection obsessed world,I want to be honest about the reality of what IS right now. This season of marriaging (and parenting young kids) through a prolonged uncertain pandemic HAS BEEN THE VERY HARDEST. I haveContinue reading “Marriage (reality) check-in.”

It’s complicated.

I almost didn’t post this. But I’m 40 now, so screw it, I’m not editing myself anymore! I wrote this after a recent visit with my parents. (I hid this from them  on social media. Because I do love them and don’t want to hurt them. But being honest about hard things is important.) ThisContinue reading “It’s complicated.”

Learning to be brave.

Well, shoot. Right now I am working on final revisions for my manuscript for “Still Stace”. I’m also reading Glennon Doyle’s “Untamed”. This is quickly becoming a tumultuous, beautiful, terrible, gut-wrenching, wonderful, life-changing gift. I have to read it very slowly, digesting it in small bits. Sometimes in the bath (the only place to readContinue reading “Learning to be brave.”

This is 40.

Yesterday, I turned 40. I’m not sure how that is possible, when inside I feel no older than 14! Life is (real) messy right now, but I woke up feeling stupidly grateful to be alive, and convinced myself to take my first selfie ever because WELL WHY NOT. Are bathroom selfies still a thing?! (RevealingContinue reading “This is 40.”

Pride.

It’s the last day of pride month. 🌈 2020 has felt more formative for me than ever. My gay Christian journey started when I was 16, but now that I am (so very) close to the big 4-0, I feel like I am just beginning in a lot of ways. I’m truly learning what itContinue reading “Pride.”

A parent-scare + restore-faith-in-humanity story.

As a parent, you never know when your kids will get hurt, but you are always waiting for it on some level. (And when you have a 2.5 yr old son like mine, you wait for it every day.) We explored a new place last night, a walking trail (mostly concrete) around a man-made lake.Continue reading “A parent-scare + restore-faith-in-humanity story.”

Church.

Pausing along the Maple Ridge / Pitt Meadows Dyke trails to breathe in the mountain fog. Right now, this is my church. On my bike, sweating down these trails, God and I have it out. Almost every day. This (quarantine) time feels uncertain, in more ways than one. So, I confess my scariest fears. MyContinue reading “Church.”

Human DOING.

This quarantine time has made me see I am way better at being a human DOING, rather than a human BEING. I like to be busy. I don’t like to be still and feel hard things. It’s ugh, and uncomfortable. But this time is teaching me that’s exactly what I need to do. Slow down.Continue reading “Human DOING.”

BOOK ANNOUNCEMENT!

Friends, I can’t believe I get to announce this dream come true. If you don’t mind indulging me, I will give you a quick timeline of how I got here: I have always wanted to do a project combining my art and faith journey as a gay Christian. In late 2018 I thought of doingContinue reading “BOOK ANNOUNCEMENT!”